The following piece is written as a refutation of some of the arguments for homosexual marriage. It is written as inspired by Aquinas in that the arguments originally presented will be refuted by the author and then re-argued. Also, this piece is written from the position of the Catholic faith and those who don’t believe in the faith or who are atheist may not accept or appreciate some of the arguments. There will be some attempt on the part of the author to address some of the issues raised by those not sharing the same faith, or any faith but, it is not to be extensive.
1. Certain countries and states allow for the marriage of first cousins or close family. The fact that the state or country allows this behavior means that they should too, allow marriage for homosexual couples.
A. The legality of marriage between cousins or other close family members does not, in any way, have any association with homosexual marriage, unless, of course, said cousins or close family are in fact, attempting to engage in a homosexual marriage.
The reasons for the prohibition of marriage of first cousins and/or closer family in many societies is partially due to a long-lasting social taboo against said behavior but, is also due to the fact that relations between heterosexual first cousins or family can, if practiced over time, lead to genetic anomalies and mutations.
Relations between blood brother and sister, mother and son or father and daughter, or any combination thereof, is also referred to as incest and is always a grave moral evil, but especially when those involved are being taken advantage of by their parents and/or are under age.
Counter Argument: The point of the original argument is that if something so immoral as marrying a first cousin or close family member can be allowed, why not homosexual marriage?
Counter-Counter Argument: The fact that one moral evil is allowed by society, does not mean that another should intrinsically be OK to allow. To say this would also be like saying that if it is made legal for one to abort a baby because of down syndrome, it should also be legal to kill a baby immediately after birth if found to have down syndrome. Both are gravely evil and immoral, one is legal. (unfortunately)
2. Those who argue against homosexual marriage are bigots and, therefor, don’t even consider the arguments for homosexual marriage.
A. While it may be true that some opponents of homosexual marriage are bigots, it can equally be said of those who support homosexual marriage. Often times, emotionally charged issues, such as homosexual marriage, will blind people to arguments on either side except their own.
Counter Argument: That may be true to an extent but the “anti” group is always more outspoken and meaner in their stance.
Counter-Counter Argument: While there are some groups and demographics that are extremely rude and hard-headed, especially in online comments where a person can anonymously say whatever they want without having to look a person in the eye, this is by no means a true sample of ALL of those who may be opposed. In fact, in some cases when an “anti” group holds a silent protest or prayer protest, there have been cases of supporters of the cause swearing, spitting on and heckling the peaceful “anti” crowd. So, again, there may be persons being outspoken but, each side will tend to claim the other is more aggressive.
3. If marriage is a “religious institution” and not a right, than why is it that the divorce rate, even amongst “religious” married couples is around 50%? They are a bunch of hypocrites.
A. While some of those arguing against homosexual marriage may be hypocrites due to divorce, one cannot say this about all circumstances. The woman who is battered by her husband, the husband whose wife steals money they need to feed their children for drugs and countless other situations may merit a social divorce. However, this isn’t to say that the couple doesn’t remain married in the eyes of God and wouldn’t be guilty of mortal sin if they engaged in another marriage without first having an annulment, proving the first marriage, in fact, did not sacramentally exist in the first place.
Also, while those making the argument may, in fact, be hypocrites when it comes to their beliefs, it does not mean that their arguments don’t hold any moral truth. If a mass murderer were to speak out against violence, he would be a hypocrite, but he would also be speaking the truth.
Counter Argument: This still doesn’t change the fact that the “institution” of marriage has a failure rate of 50% or more so, it must not really be an institution.
Counter-Counter Argument: The status of the “success rate” of marriage has nothing to do with it being a religious institution. God made the sexes, male and female to be compatible both in spirit and physically. The same cannot be said for homosexual couples on either level.
Also, studies vary on the “success” of homosexual marriage. In studies where homosexual marriage has only been legalized a short time, the success rate was higher than heterosexual married couples, but, was only done based on 30 months. However, in countries that have had legal homosexual marriage for a longer time, such as Norway, the divorce rate is the same, and actually found that infidelity is higher amongst homosexual married couples than their heterosexual counterparts. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_of_same-sex_couples
Counter Argument: Catholics have no right to make an argument because of the priest scandals.
Counter-Counter Argument: The priest scandals have absolutely nothing to do with the Church’s teaching on homosexual marriage. In fact, they have nothing to do with the Church’s teachings on child abuse or exploitation either!
The Catholic church and other religious organizations are made up of people. People are prone to make mistakes, as they are sinful creatures and imperfect in nature. There are priests, about 1-2% of the overall world population of priests, that engaged in behavior that was abusive and manipulative. These individuals have been punished by the Church but, are also subject to social laws as well. The Church has also put into place some of the most extensive safeguards to prevent further abuse by any religious organizations. For example, any person willing to work with children in any educational or other volunteer activity in the US must go through a mandatory child abuse awareness and education course as well as go through a background check.
Another thing that must be noted is that abuse scandals have happened at roughly the same percentages in public schools and non-Catholic religious organizations. The abuse itself has nothing to do with the Church and everything to do with a corrupt and abusive individual. Granted, there were steps taken to lessen the appearance of abuse, however, the same thing was found to be done in school systems up until the outcry about it in recent years. It is never right no matter who is performing the abuse and under what circumstances.
However, none of this negates the ability for the Church to have moral stances on important social issues. Especially moral truths that have been held as far back as the first hundred years or so of Christianity, as can be found in multiple documents written at that time.
4. Not allowing homosexual couples to get married is slavery.
A. Slavery has multiple definitions, however, only one of those definitions can in any way, shape or form apply to homosexual marriage. One who is abjectly subservient to a specified person or influence. Abject means being in the lowest possible condition and abjectly being in a resigned and/or hopeless state.
The fact of the matter is, many countries, states, insurances, health plans and other such social “staples” of social marriage now cover domestic partners, be them same or different sex. That is by no means being abjectly subservient. It is not a hopeless, dire situation. One could make a similar argument that they are slaves because divorce is not faster, or taxes are not lower.
Those arguing that homosexuals who are unable to get married are slaves, debase those who are truly slaves. In many countries, slavery is still legal and persons are bought and sold as if they were property. Even in the United States, illegal immigrants, promised freedom in a new land, are lured into the underground sex trade and trafficked. These atrocities can in no way be compared to one not being able to marry another, and speaking of slavery in such a manner, truly does an injustice to those who are truly slaves.
Counter Argument: Slaves in colonial times were not allowed to marry so, homosexual couples are being treated LIKE slaves in that manner.
Counter-Counter Argument: Homosexuals share in what amounts to a minute detail of slavery. Homosexuals are not forced to work for no money, they aren’t used by their bosses for sexual purposes against their will and they aren’t bought, traded or sold. One could argue that they are also like a slave because they are forced to do certain things against their will, again, like paying taxes. That is also an example of someone being in a state LIKE a slave in some way.
Having some similarity to that of a slave is no basis for a moral argument. Nobody in this situation is being beaten or chained or anything of that nature. One could use language stating they are “chained” because they can’t marry but, it hardly holds weight compared to those “chained” in sin or “chained” by not being able to find work. Those are true forms of slavery in some ways, and again, are debased by arguments about homosexuals not being married.
5. Letting homosexual persons get married doesn’t affect you personally so, why does it even matter to you?
A. The same question can easily be asked about any complex social issue. How does “abortion rights” affect a person personally, when they aren’t pregnant and would never have an abortion if they were? How does assisted suicide affect those who aren’t old, abandoned by family and in pain? One can even ask, how does homosexual marriage directly affect those who are heterosexual and argue for it?
This argument is not valid because, it can literally be applied to nearly anything. It is a clear example of the indifference and relativism in society. Just because something that is a moral evil doesn’t affect one personally, doesn’t make it any less evil. Assisted suicide, abortion, embryonic stem cell research, cloning, en-vitro fertilization and homosexual marriage are taught by the Church to be a grave moral evil and many of these have been taught since the early 100s by the Christian fathers. The mere fact of them being a moral evil, merits the speaking out against them.
Counter Argument: Most of those other things hurt people, homosexual marriage hurts nobody.
Counter-Counter Argument: Homosexual marriage has, in fact, and can, in fact, hurt others. There are businesses which have been founded on Christian and Catholic principals by persons which follow their faith, even in their work. Adoption agencies, health services and other social services are provided by these businesses. However, in some locations businesses such as these, that have existed for decades, have been forced to close due to their desire to stay in line with their beliefs. Jobs have been lost and services have been lost to communities because of this.
There can also be a slippery slope in this direction. Many times the cause of “discrimination” can be used to further persecute those who are attempting to follow their religious beliefs. If there is a religious club or group that requires someone to be actively practicing their faith, in a faith that does not believe homosexual marriage is moral, and a homosexual is refused membership, the person can simply claim that they are being discriminated against. In fact, according to the European Court on Human Rights has ruled that should the UK fully legalize homosexual marriage at the country level, it would then be illegal for the government to prevent marriages from happening on religious premises. See: http://www.christiantelegraph.com/issue15816.html
Counter Argument: Organizations and businesses that supposedly exist for the common good would have supported homosexual marriage so, it is only right said groups are put out of business.
Counter-Counter Argument: It is not up to an individual as to whether a business did something for the common good or not. Also, in many countries there are protections for one being able to practice his or her faith. There are also laws stating that governments will not have a state-sponsored religion, meaning that a specific organized religion cannot dictate the laws of said country However, if the persons of said country decide based upon their own religious motivations as individuals, which laws to encourage or discourage, that is not, in of itself, religion taking over the state or influencing laws. Even church leaders reminding their faithful of the morality or immorality of a particular law, is not said church directly influencing the laws.
So, to say that an organization which is built upon a certain religious belief and does not accept tax dollars or contracts does not mean that said organization should be forced to comply with things that are against their religious beliefs. In the case of adoption agencies, the state must be involved so, the conflict is sadly, unavoidable.
There are other arguments to be made for or against homosexual marriage that are not covered in the above work. However, the point of this exercise was to debunk several non-arguments based upon logical fallacy.


